If you are in a relationship that is going nowhere then you feel the need to assess your man’s real intention. But before you stop having sex to understand his level of commitment there are certain things that you need to understand and consider before you make your decision.
Force cannot compel
While withholding sex can have its advantages, making him commit by withholding sex can be a long shot. Remember that force doesn’t drive relationships. If you do want to go ahead and withhold sex do it to give your man a gentle nudge to make him see the benefits of committing to you. Don’t make it an act of revenge.
Sex is only a part of a relationship
Remember that sex is only a part of a relationship. It is something that all men give a lot of importance to but you ideally should not leverage it as a bargaining strategy. This will make you look shallow in front of your man.
Men do not like being manipulated
You also need to know that men do not like women who try to manipulate them. If your man figures out that you are refusing to give him sex so that he gets manipulated into a commitment then things could backfire badly.
Saying yes could be a temporary solution
If you feel that your man will commit to you after you hold back sex from him then you could be wrong. Your man could turn the tables against you and agree to commit only as a temporary solution without having any actual intention to follow things through.
Shifting the attention from sex that right way
If you want to withhold sex, then you also have to make him feel happy about other things. Making see how good you have it together is more likely to make him want to commit to you than making him miserable alone.
Physically being absent for a while
Absence does make a man realize what he has got and how good his life is when he is with you. Disconnect completely from him so that he gets the real picture of how lonely his life is going to be when you are not in it. You will be withholding sex from him all right but without being perceived as manipulative.
Knowing the real reason behind not committing
Before you withhold sex you need to know the real reason why your man is not willing to commit to you. Once you get these answers you will be able to address the problem the right way and get your man to commit.